u/Rubenesque_Riot

I think one of the perks of being an “older” Domme is that I have less interest in playing a character and more interest in understanding people. I’ve lived enough life to know that most of us spend far too much time trying to be who we think we’re supposed to be instead of who we actually are.

That’s what I enjoy most about this. I like helping people sort through the shame, the confusion, and the endless overthinking until they can finally say, “This is who I am, and that’s okay.” Whether that’s their kinks, their submission, or just the way they move through the world, I want them to feel more at home in themselves than when we started.

That extends to findom, too. The money is part of the dynamic, but it’s never the whole point for me. What I enjoy is the trust, the intention, and watching someone become more confident in their identity and finances to send the big 3 digit sends instead of constantly questioning it.

Maybe that’s selfish. There is something deeply satisfying, and undeniably arousing, about watching someone stop fighting themselves. Seeing a submissive settle into who they are, with a little guidance along the way, is the kind of fulfillment that keeps me coming back.

Just someone to listen while I have a life-changing thought at 2:14 AM, decide I need three new hobbies, and ask increasingly strange questions until sunrise.

It’s a demanding position.