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Okay, I need some serious help how I am going to go about this. I had a relationship. I ghosted due to being extorted and used many other things and this man is a malignant narc and now has women pulling records. I would like to feel safe what is my best option to exit this. Do I just block and move on or should I keep it on to keep a paper trail? I have been conned out of thousands. I would just like to safely exit, I was unaware of a lot of his violent charges against women. I do have a lot people looking out for me. I just don't want this to get potentially dangerous. What do I do? where so I start? OR Keep everything on so I can keep a paper trail. He is doing typical narc smear campaign. He will do this to everyone he comes into contact with. PLEASE HELP.

like the title says ): he’s a meanie (not rlly) and wanted me to play a sad song on our last call so now i’m in my feels lol but it’s got me thinking like i have been these last few months. court has been getting postponed since january. he was supposed to have trial in january then it was scheduled to be in july but he ended up making a deal with the da which is kinda fucked but now he’s only fighting one charge and it’s the lesser but it is a felony still ): it’s so sad cus he didn’t even do it and the person who did? da gave immunity to. but it’s the cards he was dealt. he’s so strong and i’m so proud of him we do a good job of balancing each other out but i feel like he carries me more than i do him. long story short he has his punishment hearing in a little less than a month and this time next month he’ll either be back home or waiting to catch chain ): but tbh it is looking good all things considered it’s just sad cus whenever we think it’s gonna go one way it always goes the other. praying for the best but preparing for the worst type beat u know but if all goes well which it SHOULD my baby should be home next month and i can’t wait to hug him kiss him look at him when i tell him i love him. i remember the last night we had he didn’t want to get up and said it might be the last time he can hold me for a while. i wish we stayed in bed longer. 14 months in a few days and it sucks. it sucks for everyone involved and the person responsible got to move away to a different state with no repercussions. but i know god will do as he sees fit and it’s not my place to question but it does feel super shitty lol. I love him more than anything and we’re incredibly blessed to be able to talk to each other every day and video visit almost every day for the last 2 ish months since i can’t go visit him but i’ll take what i can get. i just want him home!!! i miss him so much i just hope next month is the end of it so we can finally breathe and rebuild ):

just needed to vent cus fuck ts sucks

Who's staying by their man's side with long sentences? How long is the sentence and how are you doing

Just like checking in once in awhile so I feel less insane
I love my man so much he's done 9 on a 35 year bid still in appeals. Some days I'm a mess. I'm lucky and 1 hour away from him so I visit 2-3 times a month and we talk every day but it does wear on the soul.

He’s been in 5 months and the most I’ve ever gotten is “you’re so pretty” “I love you so much” “I can’t wait to marry you” which don’t get me wrong I appreciate very much and I know he’s not just saying it to say it. I know he means it. But. The other day I tried to make it a little spicier. He was complaining about being skipped for lunch so I said “if I were there you could eat a piece of this ass” he said “wow you’re so nice thank you!” Then I said “you could eat more than that if you wanted to” THIS MAN SAYS “hell yeah I’ve always wanted to try human meat” 🫠🫠🫠 (he doesn’t) I gave up after that. What the hell lmao how do I get this man to flirt with me?? No issues with that when he was out here. What on earth y’all lmao

I met & have been talking to someone who’s incarcerated for about 2 months and well it’s only natural to become attached and to develop feelings after talking to them for some time. This individual told me that he needs two more years to go until he is released and promised the moon & the stars. However, my gut feeling irked me to do some research/detective work on him. Did not know his full name and background because he was very reserved about disclosing his full name, however I used my context clues and common sense to dig deeper & and find out this persons name, charges, etc.
Come to find out that this person not only lied to me about how long he will be incarcerated for, but completely sold me a dream and had me out here looking foolish asf knowing that he was sentenced to life in prison for being a violent career criminal.
I feel so stupid. I feel betrayed. Lied to. And once again jaded. I’m so glad that I found out before it was too late and before I was in too deep. I’m actually quite saddened about this..

Im feeling sad my partner was taken into custody yesterday We were able to talk on the phone a few times I had a panic attack during it

But he helped me through it

He has 19 months and if hes good he can get into a halfway house by June of next year

We havent talked today because he was transfered to a new facility and im not sure ill be able to talk to him for a while which makes it even worse

I have voice recordings but it isnt the same

Does anyone know what I can do to keep myself grounded? I know 19 months isnt long but it feels like forever for me

Ok so I've been using blacks.ca but 2 times two different provincial jail's sent them back saying home based printing isn't allowed one accepted them no issue.

Where do you recommend using?

Are there any success stories of people who met their LO while incarcerated, were together for a long time, and were successful with their relationship upon release? Just curious....

Okay so,
I have been dating this guy for a while. Lately, I’ve been trying to picture what a future will look like with him, and I’m honestly just having one hell of a time. It’s not that I don’t like/accept him. Because I do. But I have a very traditional family. My best friend is supportive but will sometimes make comments like ‘i don’t understand how people can be in long term relationships with someone in prison’. At the same time, she says nothing but positive things about me and him. I’m not worried about her, she can talk all the shit she wants, but I know she’ll support my decisions. It’s my family that I worry about. They don’t even agree with dating apps, so I already know they would never approve of me dating a guy with face tattoos and a criminal record. I’m not ashamed of him. I talk about him all the time to my friends. But I’m scared of my family treating me or him differently if I tell them. My family means a lot to me and I want them to accept him. But I just know they won’t. I’ve even thought about waiting until he gets out and not telling them that he was in prison. But they’ll do their own research and they’ll find out. Plus, I want him to be able to speak freely about what he was up to for 8 years. I feel like I’m stuck in a rut. I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t want to lose my family either. I don’t know what to do or where to go from here.

I have been talking to this guy every day via GTL and on the phone about once a week (I hate talking on the phone) for about 3.5 months, but the topic of me visiting in person came up - he didn't like that idea. It's a gay relationship and he tells me he loves me when we part ways for the evening, but there's just something telling me the math isn't mathing.

I will say, everything he has told me, I was able to verify either through court records or online research. And everything pans out.

I don't know. I really have been back and forth if this dude is really bisexual.

He is very shy on the phone when we talk.. is that prison life?

Lately I’ve been feeling really beat down by it all, so much so that sometimes I don’t want to answer his calls. We talk for about an hour and a half every day. Sometimes 2. He usually fully misses my 3pm lunch break bc he sleeps until like 4pm (😒) misses my 5:30 10 minute break but calls anyway, usually right after I get back to work, so then I get stressed about taking a second break when I shouldn’t (nobody at work has an issue with this but still lol) then he calls at 8:30 which is right after I’m off work and spending time with his kids (toddlers) so that’s chaos of course. I stay with the kids til 10 then he calls right when I get home and we talk til 11. Between work and the kids, also helping his mother on my days off bc her husband just died, sometimes I just want to throw my phone away and have some damn me time. Everything I have is going into this. I love talking to him and I cherish it so much because it’s all we have right now. But SOMETIMES LADIES, SOMEETIMMMEEESSS I let it ring a few times before I answer lol it’s not that I don’t love him I’m just TIRED

GTL, how can I change the primary phone number on my GTL account?

Without calling GTL support, because I have to call from the number I want to change to. And because I’m from Europe using TextPlus I’m not able to do that, TextPlus won’t allow me to call GTL’s number from my region…. (Already tried calling when using a VPN).

He can write me but I can’t write him because I need to change primary number to the US TextPlus one to access the money on my account.

He was sooo happy when he saw that I added him and I can’t respond 😢 so sick of snail mail taking weeks to be delivered.. Please help! 😔

Hey there prison-wives, Im a prospective prison boyfriend to a gal in AZ.

For the life of me I can't find a straight answer for calling on the AZ Corrections site.

We message via Securus just fine, but when I filled out the application for telephone on the AZ Corrections site, it just prints the page.... Do I need to mail this in for calls? And where to? As theres legit zero sensible directions.

Or am I just wasting my time and she can call me, as long as my Securus Advance-Connect is set up??

Thanks for your help, and shout out to all y'all PrisonWives for being there; as I was once inside myself and that support wouldve meant the world, had I been lucky enough.

CA, Corcoran

Hey, I’ve been friends with him for a few years now and I know that the tablets etc are having issues every now and then.
This time it’s been weeks that he hasn’t called and it’s very unlike him.
He is in California, COR. I don’t have a securus account and it wouldn’t let me create one for some reason so I can’t send him a message.
Can someone please check the Facebook groups for this facility if there are any issues?
I don’t want to join any of those groups.

Also: last time I talked to him he told me he was gonna go see a doctor for an X-ray so maybe they kept him in medical? I’m lost at this point and just worried.
Thanks in advance!

Edit: Are they still able to call international?

I would choose him, every single time. But.. this isnt the first, or second time I have been in our home, not able to sleep. Worrying about him. missing him. But this time im angry. Im angry that I dont get to just live my life with my person. Im angry at the stupid decisions he makes..even tho in his defense, he works and provides and is a different man than he used to be, for sure. But its like we can never get past this part. He will do his time, get half way house or probation and it will be one stupid thing that puts him back. I really believed that I would never have to do this again and im so angry. I am trying to be there for him, and of course, i am. But I don't know. i dont even know what im talking about..Im just exhausted. I want our life. I love him more than anything. But I wish I loved me more. I don't know what that would look like, because I do know I want to be with him. I just need to not be so much in there with him this time. That seems impossible. Im probably just having a bad day feeling sorry for myself. idk

My guy said rumors are going around that they’ll be getting new tablets they will be able to send messages, make calls, have visits whenever they want to. No more needing to sync to a kiosk, standing in line at one phone for a plethora of inmates, or having to pick and choose from extremely limited time slots for visits… Does anyone have any information on this happening? I tried to look online but I haven’t had any luck.

Hi all! New here, just was supposed to have my second virtual visit this evening and I couldn’t get in. There’s a “server error” on the website so I’m hoping it’s not just me! Is anyone else having trouble?

So a little context I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He has been in prison since March. When it forst started we were great it was like we got closer we talked sometimes literally 8 hours a day. Then one day it all changed and hes been brutally mean. I mean brutal. And as ashamed amd embarrassed i am, I honestly think hes cheating while in there. And he just acts like he doesnt care. It has taken since March for m3 to get approved bc of my record. I had to prove I have changed and finally got approved. We had 1 visit 2 weeks ago and I thought things would get better. Nope! He still hardly calls me anymore and when he does he picks a fight and hangs up on me and won't call or acknowledge messages. So the visit is scheduled for tomorrow and he called 1 tome today and it was okay. I asked if he qas calling back to do so before 1030. He calls at 1029 and I chose not to give him the satisfaction of showing him he upset me and he just kept saying "I was asleep" when I didnt say anything and then" wtf is your problem dude, atleast I called you" and when I hear the voice of the individual I think he has a "deeper" connection with he just makes me look and feel so stupid and is so mean and I tell him Im gonna go to sleep and he says "bye bye, Idgaf" then I told him I dont know if I should even come tomorrow he just mumbled something to tht dude and says" okay haha dont, idc".. has anyone else dealt with this? I keep saying its the stress there but hes breaking me. And idk what to do. It took so much to get approved and now I dont evn want to go. Am I wrong??

Posting on a burner. I’m so so worried about my man, since he got moved to a different prison a few months ago he has completely changed for the worse. Constantly asking me for money to send to different cashapps, 30,40,50,70,200 dollars at times! (Most days of the week!) He knows how much it hurts me and he keeps promising each time will be the last time. He is killing me, I heard from my cousin who has a friend in the same prison, saying that fentanyl is everywhere in the prison and I am so so scared that he’s going to end up killing himself over this! I’ve had him blocked since yesterday, because some of the things he has said to me have been so so hurtful. Calling me a slut, whore, retarded, ugly, worthless just because I refuse to send money. Then he has countless people calling me and texting me apologizing for what he’s saying, and I genuinely feel so upset and sorry towards him I end up unblocking him and believing that he will really change. He has deleted both me and his mother off his tablet, he looks awful like a completely different person when I see him (no haircut, eyebrows, beard not done etc which usually he takes a lot of pride in). We have a visit coming up which he is always threatening to cancel, his mom is telling me to just not show up, but I know that him being able to see me in person is something he has been looking forward to, and I don’t want to let him down and cause him any more pain that makes him want to turn to drugs even more. He tellls me he only wants money for suboxone, but ever since hearing about the fentanyl problems in his prison I am worried for him. I’ve blocked him because I love him and I care for him, I don’t want to enable his habit but I always just end up doing it because of feeling a guilt towards him, that he doesn’t have anybody or anything and it makes me so upset but his constant phone calls and messages about money are making me seriously sick! He is due to get out next year too. I’m just worried about him 😩 I know that he probably doesn’t mean anything that he says, and it’s just the drugs talking but it hurts so much