u/GoddessCaraZ

A thought about verification requests from subs

A lot of dommes automatically reject it when a sub asks for verification. I used to do the same, because it’s easy to assume they just want free content.

But the truth is, not every request is the same.

A lot of subs have had bad experiences or been scammed before, and that’s why they ask for verification. Not necessarily out of control or bad intentions, but because they want to feel safe about who they’re building a connection with.

Not too long ago, I had a situation like this myself: a sub didn’t send a tribute, but instead sent a coffee and a very respectful message asking to be sure it was really me he was talking to.

At first, my instinct was to say no, because I don’t like having to “prove” anything.

But then I found a way to do it that felt comfortable for me, didn’t require much effort, and still gave him the reassurance he was looking for. Nothing excessive, just enough.

The result? +$450, first day and it’s already an angel number

So I think the takeaway is that verification requests shouldn’t always be automatically dismissed.

It’s not about accepting everything it’s about finding a version that works for your boundaries and comfort, while still acknowledging the other person’s need for reassurance.

At the end of the day, it always comes down to the same thing: boundaries + comfort + clear communication. ✨

The amount of subs who skip over a Domme's profile, ignore her rules, and then act surprised when they don't get attention will never cease to amaze me.

If a Domme clearly states her expectations, read them.

A little effort, attention, and respect go a long way. Read first, approach second. 🖤