u/ThePastyGhost

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not comment or DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not comment or DM me.

Hi, I'm Chris.

I'm looking for a long-term relationship that grows into marriage and a life together. I believe the best relationships are built on trust, communication, shared goals, and taking care of each other. I'm looking for someone who wants to build a home and a future as teammates.

A few dealbreakers up front:

• 🚭 Non-smoker.
• 👶 Childfree, and looking for someone who feels the same.
• 🐾 I have a terrier mix named Tony who's wonderful with people but doesn't get along with cats.
• 🏋️ I stay active and would love a partner who enjoys taking care of herself too.
• 🚗 I don't currently drive (I'm working on it), so being reasonably local is a big plus.
• 🔫 I'm a responsible firearm owner and concealed carry.

A little about me: I own my condo, cook most nights, work out several times a week, fence on Sundays, and spend a frankly ridiculous amount of time walking Tony. I'm currently building my own game studio, and while I'm unemployed at the moment, that's where most of my time and energy are going.

Outside of work, I'm a giant nerd. I love science fiction and fantasy (Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss, Terry Pratchett), tabletop games, D&D, miniature painting, 3D printing, bookstores, museums, coffee shops, and long conversations that somehow end up discussing philosophy, worldbuilding, or whatever rabbit hole we wandered into.

I'm naturally pretty talkative online but quieter in person until I get comfortable. Once I do, good luck getting me to stop talking about fencing, game design, or whatever hobby currently has my attention.

One thing that's very important to me is growth. I like having goals, routines, and always trying to become a little better than I was yesterday. I'd love to find someone who's equally curious and enjoys learning, creating, and supporting each other through life's challenges.

Relationship-wise, I'm looking for something fairly traditional. My ideal future is one where I shoulder the responsibility of providing financially while my partner focuses on making our house a home. I don't see homemaking as "not working"—I see it as real work that's every bit as valuable as bringing home a paycheck.

I want to come home to someone who's excited to see me, and I want her to know she's coming home to someone who appreciates everything she does. I like the idea of dividing responsibilities according to our strengths rather than trying to split every task down the middle. If I'm handling the career and finances, I'd love a partner who enjoys cooking, creating a comfortable home, and building the kind of peaceful life we both look forward to at the end of the day.

That doesn't mean giving up your own interests or ambitions. I want you to have hobbies, friends, passions, and projects that make you happy. I simply hope we can build a life where home and family are our shared priority, and where we both contribute in different but equally valuable ways.

Politically, I'm a left-leaning guy who believes in things like a living wage and universal healthcare, while also being a responsible gun owner. If nuance appeals to you, we'll probably get along.

If you're looking for a genuine partnership with someone who's affectionate, dependable, a little nerdy, and serious about building a future together, I'd love to hear from you.

Tell me your ideal first date, your favorite museum, or the last book you couldn't put down.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free send me a DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not comment or DM me.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for rational 24/7 dynamic.

Hi, I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom located in Harrisburg, PA but open to US based partners. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

Why?

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

What do I like?

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

My kink interests lean toward intimate power exchange. I like denial, edging, bondage (need to use those knots I learned in Scouts somehow), pet names ("good girl" is a fave for a reason), CNC, overstimulation, and orgasm denial. Basically, if my partner can still remember her name, I haven't given her enough orgasms.

But what about non-kinky Chris?

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

I am a huge science fiction and fantasy nerd - Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss and Terry Pratchett are favorites.

I'm also a huge tabletop gamer and D&D nerd - I currently play in two different campaigns, and I'm looking to run a long series of one-shots with one of those groups while we're on hiatus. Outside of D&D, I cut my teeth on Warhammer and similar games, and those are generally the "sci fi" novels I read, as well as a little Heinlein.

I tend to be pretty gregarious and talkative online, but get me in person and I can clam up pretty solidly. Once the ice is broken, however, I can talk about fencing, D&D character creation, tabletop game design, miniature painting, and a whole host of other rabbit holes.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

Feel free to DM if I sound like the kind of Dom you could see guiding you and giving you a soft place to land. Tell me what this dynamic means to you and maybe what an average day in your ideal dynamic looks like. Or, if not that, your favorite date idea or favorite museum.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, please do not comment or DM me.

Hi, I'm Chris.

I'm looking for a long-term relationship that grows into marriage and a life together. I believe the best relationships are built on trust, communication, shared goals, and taking care of each other. I'm looking for someone who wants to build a home and a future as teammates.

A few dealbreakers up front:

• 🚭 Non-smoker.
• 👶 Childfree, and looking for someone who feels the same.
• 🐾 I have a rescue pit mix named Tony who's great with other dogs but slowly learning to be better with people.
• 🏋️ I stay active and would love a partner who enjoys taking care of herself too.
• 🚗 I don't currently drive (I'm working on it), so being reasonably local is a big plus.
• 🔫 I'm a responsible firearm owner and concealed carry.

A little about me: I own my condo, cook most nights, work out several times a week, fence on Sundays, and spend a frankly ridiculous amount of time walking Tony. I'm currently building my own game studio, and while I'm unemployed at the moment, that's where most of my time and energy are going.

Outside of work, I'm a giant nerd. I love science fiction and fantasy (Brandon Sanderson, Scott Lynch, Patrick Rothfuss, Terry Pratchett), tabletop games, D&D, miniature painting, 3D printing, bookstores, museums, coffee shops, and long conversations that somehow end up discussing philosophy, worldbuilding, or whatever rabbit hole we wandered into.

I'm naturally pretty talkative online but quieter in person until I get comfortable. Once I do, good luck getting me to stop talking about fencing, game design, or whatever hobby currently has my attention.

One thing that's very important to me is growth. I like having goals, routines, and always trying to become a little better than I was yesterday. I'd love to find someone who's equally curious and enjoys learning, creating, and supporting each other through life's challenges.

Relationship-wise, I'm looking for something fairly traditional. My ideal future is one where I shoulder the responsibility of providing financially while my partner focuses on making our house a home. I don't see homemaking as "not working": it's real work that's every bit as valuable as bringing home a paycheck.

I want to come home to someone who's excited to see me, and I want her to know she's coming home to someone who appreciates everything she does. I like the idea of dividing responsibilities according to our strengths rather than trying to split every task down the middle. If I'm handling the career and finances, I'd love a partner who enjoys cooking, creating a comfortable home, and building the kind of peaceful life we both look forward to at the end of the day.

That doesn't mean giving up your own interests or ambitions. I want you to have hobbies, friends, passions, and projects that make you happy. I simply hope we can build a life where home and family are our shared priority, and where we both contribute in different but equally valuable ways.

I'm also a Dominant, and I'd ultimately love to build a 24/7 D/s relationship, but only if it's something we both genuinely want. For me, domination isn't about control for its own sake. It's about responsibility, trust, and creating a relationship where structure feels comforting and both partners grow into the happiest, strongest versions of themselves.

If that journey eventually leads to a collar, wonderful. But the relationship always comes first. I want my partner to choose me every day because she feels loved, respected, safe, and understood and not simply because of the dynamic we share.

Politically, I'm a left-leaning guy who believes in things like a living wage and universal healthcare, while also being a responsible gun owner. If nuance appeals to you, we'll probably get along.

If you're looking for a genuine partnership with someone who's affectionate, dependable, a little nerdy, and serious about building a future together, I'd love to hear from you.

Tell me your ideal first date, your favorite museum, or the last book you couldn't put down.

I love alpha submissives. Competence is hot. But how do you Dom that? My thought process is that you can't be a hard Dom to an alpha submissive. They'll just walk away. You have to be soft. Note that soft doesn't mean weak - there's plenty of strength in making sure that someone you care about drinks water and takes breaks from the computer.

You have to be a safe harbor where they don't have to be competent, where they can put things down.

Because being competent all the time is fucking draining.

But if you're "on" all the time, it's really hard to be "off", even in private. So Domming an alpha submissive is a lot of showing them that it's safe to be vulnerable and put the competence down for a while.

That also means that you, as the Dom, have to be competent in and of yourself. You have to be able to put your moolah where your mouth is and do the competent things.

Otherwise, how else is she going to trust you to pick things up when she puts them down?

Okay, I've run out of thoughts. I know these thoughts aren't exactly groundbreaking, but I had to get this out of my head.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

I want something long term that becomes a real, committed dynamic as soon as possible. I want to lock a collar around your throat and NEVER let you go.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly, just an FYI.

Send me a chat if I sound like your kind of Dom. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, please don't reach out.

TL:DR - Cuddly, childfree, how-can-I-help Dom seeks curious, childfree, enthusiastic submissive for misogyny-free 1950s dynamic.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. I also do not drive. If either of those are an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.

I'm Chris. I'm a 31 year-old Dom looking for a sub either also in Harrisburg, in Pennsylvania, or in the US at the very least. Please be at least 23.

So what am I looking for, exactly? I want something long term that grows into a real, committed dynamic and eventually a life together.

I want to collar you. That's my end goal, but I don't want that to BE the end: I want to show up every day and show you WHY you decided to wear my collar.

I want to take you apart slowly, figure out exactly how you think, what drives you, what holds you back, and rebuild you into the strongest, happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself you can be. I want the kind of dynamic where my voice settles your mind, where structure becomes comforting instead of restrictive, and where obedience feels natural because you trust me to give you orders.

For me, domination is about ownership and the responsibility that comes with it. When you wear my collar, you're putting some portion of yourself in my hands, and it's my responsibility to nurture and care for that part of you. I want to take the weight off your shoulders so you can stop carrying everything alone and you can actually relax into yourself.

I want routines. Rituals. Check-ins. Expectations. Growth you can actually see over time. I want to push you, encourage you, praise you, correct you when needed, and help shape you into someone more confident, grounded, feminine, and secure than when we met. I want you to look back after a year under my collar and realize how much stronger and happier you’ve become.

Personality-wise, I’m basically a nerd with a gym membership. I work out three days a week, walk my dog five miles a day, and fence on Sundays. Outside of that, I run a game design company, paint miniatures, mess with 3D printing, and spend a lot of time painting and gaming. My ideal dates are bookstores, coffee shops, museums, farmer’s markets, and quiet places where we can actually talk.

Politics-wise (because it's important), I'm one of those weird leftists who voted for Biden, Harris and Obama, believes in a living wage and Medicare for All, but also owns firearms. I concealed carry and go to the range regularly.

When you reach out, I want to know what this dynamic means to you and an average day in your ideal dynamic. Don't reach out if you're not sure this dynamic is for you - I don't want to waste either of our time.

P.S. I'm currently unemployed at the moment, though I'm working on not being so. If that's an issue for you, don't reach out.