u/Tripp_555

So there's many Dynamics Within flr's. Obviously at the core, women lead and make all the decisions. But within this there can the other things like Chastity and cucking.

My question is, what if the male within the relationship revokes consent? How would you or your partner react if you/he did this?

Let's say he comes up one day and says " hey babe, I've had enough of this. I feel unseen and unwanted and I think that it has gone too far. I'm going to take a break. No more chastity, no more cucking, and now we are egalitarian in the decision making. Keys please."

How would you/your partner take this and what would you do? Would you honor it and go back to normal? Would you have a dead bedroom? Would you break up?

Im just curious to see how consent is viewed within a power dynamic because it seems in alot of FLRs both people don't really appreciate the gravity of what is at stake.

Not sure if this question comes from just not knowing how it works so my apologies. But let's say you do an intense scene and get through it and need aftercare.

Well you don't really want your domme to do it because they just got finished beating you and you can't look at them right now until you come down from sub space.

So what would you think about getting a 3rd neutral person who's only job is to provide that comfort that you're genuinely safe again?

What makes you not scared of handing over autonomy? I was shown chastity content without consent by a person I have now blocked ......and I found it triggering

I grew up with a VERY controlling mother who was verbally and physically abusive towards me growing up, so many femdom themes when I see them take me back to a very unsafe place.

So my question is, when you are submitting and willingly hand over your autonomy, identity, and self ownership, how do you know you won't be hurt or abused?

I know safewords exist.....but they are only as good as you trust your partner to honor them.

And people mention aftercare, again what if you are too traumatized to participate in it?

This is a discussion intended for both couples and Bulls. Some important context is I am a 27m aspiring Bull. I had one hot wife experience about a year and a half ago that I kind of lucked my way into but I knew nothing about the lifestyle at the time and now I'm trying to be more intentional about the lifestyle.

So first, what is the best way you've found (apps, sites, pics, etc) to meet people looking for a 3rd? I was wondering specifically what platforms you used to find couples/bulls as well as how you go about advertising your needs/ services. What combination of putting yourself out there offers you the best visibility for people to reach out to you? Like what is the best combination of what pictures to post/ where to post them / where to reach out to people looking for a 3rd?

Do you seek them out or let them come to you?

Additionally if you had any recommendations for common mistakes that entry level Bulls make to avoid and useful differentiating things, Etc. Just looking for advice in general on how to best equip myself for wanting to put the best version of myself out there. I feel like I could be doing a better job of my visibility but I don't know the best way of doing it.

The second part of the discussion I guess is more on the Bulls side. How do you deal with a lack of success and not let it affect your self worth? Obviously with all the competition and with life getting in the way amongst other things and that leads to periods where you just aren't getting any success So what do you do?

Obviously I'm continuing to put myself out there and hit the gym to focus on my physique and always be open to Opportunities when they come about, but inevitably there will be times where nothing is happening. I've lost 46lbs since october and also closed on a house last week and am moving in, going to church and my running club, learning how to talk to women better, so I am making life improvements....but life still feels "empty"

So how do you keep going and not let it get you down?

Thanks so much for the discussion

27M aspiring bull. Obviously with all the competition and with life getting in the way amongst other things and that leads to periods where you just aren't getting any. So what do you do?

Obviously I'm continuing to put myself out there and hit the gym to focus on my physique and always be open to Opportunities when they come about, but inevitably there will be times where nothing is happening.

So how do you keep your life full in the meantime? Obviously working hard at my job, hitting the gym, keeping up with my diet, I closed on my first house last week so I will be doing DIY Renovations and building new furniture for myself. Events on fetlife, running club, trips to the local nude beach with friends....but Idk I feel like during this period of nothing happening I'm just "empty"?

Any advice on how to handle that? How do you let that not affect your self worth?

27M aspiring bull here. So height and dick size are obviously things we can't control. I'm 5"10' in boots and slightly above average in size. Not asking about these things.

What I AM asking is things you CAN control that helped your success rate after you started doing it.

For example, a nice physique always helps, so I started going to a running club and started a new weight lifting routine and I am down 46lbs since october. A little over half way to my goal!

Having lost all that weight, I need to get a new wardrobe because nothing fits anymore.

So having a more built body, better style, learning how to talk and hold a conversation, etc.

I'm asking what are some things you've done and changes you've made that you noticed was helpful in your time in the Lifestyle?

I am an aspiring bull and wanted to know how to get my feet wet in the lifestyle. I was wondering specifically what platforms you used to find couples as well as how you go about advertising your services. What combination of putting yourself out there offers you the best visibility for people to reach out to you? Like what is the best combination of what pictures to post/ where to post them / where to reach out to people looking for a 3rd?

Do you seek them out or let them come to you?

Additionally if you had any recommendations for common mistakes that entry level Bulls make to avoid and useful differentiating things, Etc. Just looking for advice in general on how to best equip myself for wanting to try the lifestyle thanks!

1. why?

2. how do they show it?

From an Outsiders perspective, if my future partner told me that she did not want to have sex with me anymore and talk to me about how pathetic my penis is and she wants me to watch her have sex with other guys, I would feel absolutely gutted and I would just leave and let her be with somebody who could make her happy. So I just give that as context to let y'all know that I can't really wrap my head around your mentality here, so I guess I'm just looking for some clarification as to how your partner respect you and makes you feel loved when from my perspective it's the exact opposite.